061. Is My Spouse’s Hot-and-Cold Behavior a Sign of Mental Illness?
Emotional instability in a partner may be linked to past trauma, current stress, personality traits, or underlying mental health conditions such as borderline personality traits or emotional regulation disorders. If mood swings significantly affect your relationship or personal well-being, consider couples or individual counseling to better understand the root causes and learn healthier ways to interact.

062. Why Do I Always Feel Drained or Cautious in My Relationship?
Feeling constantly on edge in a relationship may signal emotional fatigue or imbalance. If you’re adjusting your behavior to avoid conflict or constantly managing the other person’s emotions, you may be in an emotionally unequal dynamic. Counseling can help you explore your relational patterns, clarify emotional boundaries, and build safer, more balanced intimacy.

063. Why Do I Lose Control of My Emotions During Arguments?
Emotional outbursts during conflict often stem from past trauma, poor regulation skills, or feeling threatened. The brain may trigger a “fight-or-flight” response. Learn to pause, breathe, identify emotional triggers, and set communication rules outside conflict moments. These skills can help reduce reactive behaviors and improve constructive communication.

064. Is It Normal for One Partner to Stay Silent for a Long Time in Marriage?
Chronic silence may reflect emotional withdrawal, conflict avoidance, or disconnection. While not necessarily pathological, long-term lack of communication can create emotional distance. Couples counseling can help rebuild emotional expression and connection, breaking the cycle of “false peace” or isolation within the relationship.

065. Is Tolerating Everything in a Relationship a Sign of Maturity?
Not always. Constantly enduring discomfort may reflect fear of loss, low self-worth, or people-pleasing tendencies rather than true maturity. Healthy relationships involve mutual respect, honest communication, and boundaries. If tolerance comes at the cost of your emotional well-being, it's worth exploring its roots with a therapist.

066. My Partner Wants to Control Everything—Is That Love?
Control is not love. Genuine love includes respect, trust, and space. Constant monitoring or manipulation often stems from insecurity or controlling tendencies, which can lead to anxiety and self-doubt. Healthy relationships are partnerships, not power struggles. Set boundaries and seek support to understand the dynamics behind control.

067. Are Frequent Fights in Marriage Always a Bad Thing?
Not necessarily. Conflict itself isn't harmful—how you handle it matters more. Constructive disagreements can clarify needs and improve understanding. However, fights that involve blame, contempt, or unresolved tension can erode the relationship. Communication skills, problem-solving strategies, and post-conflict repair are key to resilience.

068. Why Can’t I Leave an Unhealthy Relationship Even Though I Know It’s Bad?
This is often tied to attachment styles, low self-esteem, emotional dependency, fear of being alone, or unmet childhood needs. The familiarity of dysfunction may feel safer than the uncertainty of change. Therapy can help uncover the underlying patterns, redefine healthy relationships, and build inner strength for change.

069. How Do I Set Healthy Boundaries in a Romantic Relationship?
Boundaries protect your sense of self and maintain relationship health. Healthy boundaries include communicating discomfort, respecting personal space, and staying grounded in conflict. Use “I-statements” (e.g., “I feel uncomfortable when my phone is checked without permission”) to assert needs clearly and respectfully.

070. What Should I Do If There’s Infidelity in My Marriage?
Infidelity deeply impacts trust and emotional safety. Intense feelings of anger, shame, sadness, and confusion are common. Take time to calm emotions before making decisions. Discuss the root causes—was it emotional distance, unmet needs, or poor communication? Couples therapy can provide a space to explore reconciliation or peaceful separation while helping both partners process their emotions and set future boundaries.